Most transformation conversations are about acquisition. Acquire the habit. Acquire the discipline. Acquire the mindset. As if becoming were a matter of stacking.
The deeper truth is that becoming is an exchange. To hold the next version of yourself, you must first set down the one whose hands are full.
This is the part of the work that no one promises you. The grief of letting go of the woman who got you here. The strange loneliness of standing in the gap between who you were and who you have not yet learned to be.
It passes. It always passes. And what waits on the other side is not a better version of the woman you were — it is a different woman entirely.
Dr. Gissele Donovan